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“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” ~Thomas Campbell

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“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” ~Thomas Campbell

Judy Bargender
Judy Rae Bargender passed away April 27th, 2018.

Judy was born on January 28th, 1961 to Carol Reich and Dell Engman in Wausau, WI. She was one of six children.

Judy had two daughters who fought her cancer battle alongside her, Katie Ulrick and Kimberly Bargender. She was also loved very much by her son-in-law James Ulrick and two grandchildren, Jacob and Brynlie Ulrick. Judy was married to Scott Bargender for many years and following their separation, she looked at him as a best friend.

Judy was always the go-to for our whole family, whether or not she was in pain or ill, she always put everyone else’s needs first. Judy’s two grandbabies were the light of her life and not a day went by that she didn’t get multiple calls from her grandson “JJ” to tell her all about his day. She enjoyed casino trips, fishing, cross stitching, Christmas time and snuggles from her two dogs and cat.

Her survivors include siblings, Jane (Dennis) Fehlhaber, Mary (Steve) Thornewell, Ann (Tom) Goetsch , Dale Engman and brother-in-law Glen Patterson; step sister Dawn Troyer; nieces and nephews Kevin Fehlhaber, Tami Albee, Patti Thornewell, Phil Marten, Josh Marten, Lynn Mahaffey, Tony Patterson and Sidney Engman, along with many great nieces and nephews.

As Judy’s time with us ended way too soon, her family and friends will miss her dearly and will always remember her for her contagious laugh and warm hugs.

Judy is preceded in death by her sister Ellie; father Dell, step-father Raymond Reich and her maternal and paternal grandparents.

A funeral service will be held at Brainard Funeral Home, 522 Adams St., Wausau, on Tuesday, May 1st, 2018, at 2:00 pm. Rev. Craig Swenson of St. Andrew’s Lutheran Church will officiate. Visitation will be from 12:00 noon until time of service at the funeral home.

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  1. Cynthia Soczka

    04/29/2018 at 11:01 am

    Sorry for your loss Judy was full of life always smiling she will be missed by all the lives she has touched

  2. Thomas M. Szarkowitz

    04/29/2018 at 11:01 am

    Katie & Kimberly, and the extended Engman Family

    We are saddened to hear of the loss of my dear sister Judy and regret that we are unable to be there with you during this sorrowful time. We send our deepest heartfelt condolences to you and the extended Engman Family. My time with Judy was extremely short in comparison however, growing up with her has filled me with so many great memories that I will always hold dearest to my heart.

    God Bless and God Speed.

    With my eternal love I remain faithfully yours,

    ⸺ The Thomas M. Szarkowitz Family, Mesa, AZ

  3. Kay Gruling

    04/29/2018 at 11:01 am

    So sorry for your loss. What a wonderful woman Judy was. I always enjoyed seeing her. Her smile was infectious and her laugh robust.

  4. Laurel Henrichs

    04/29/2018 at 11:01 am

    Your Mom will be so very missed. We know as she spent a part of her later years taking care of our Grandchildren who loved her dearly! L & D Henrichs